The Journey!

I am a person who can watch back to back movies. We had a long weekend here in India (4 days straight official off) - I spent watching lots of movies, I had watched the Lord of the rings trilogy and this weekend I watched the whole trilogy back to back- 12 hours straight.. Yea! I am a bit crazy I felt rejuvenated when I watched this movie this time, cause I could so relate this movie with my real life too.

In my life journey by far, there have been situations where I felt: why am I been given this opportunity? Why am I supposed to do this? Why did this happen to me?

We don't have control over what situation that we'll have to face but all we have to decide is what to do with the time that is given us. There are people along the way in your life in the form of your friends, family, well-wishers, enemies (you learn the most from your enemies) etc. who will help you face these situation and meet your goal. In this journey to achieve your goal, you build network and relationships for life. There is no man who has achieved his goals by himself- this is so true. It is always the people around you who have helped you do so, you might have visibility to just a few who were there in your sight. But we always forget that to put a great show on stage, there is a huge team working back-stage and is not in your sight but helping you put up a great show. So 'Frodo' (lead character from the movie, who had responsibility to throw the ring in 'Mordor') wouldn’t have been able to do so without his friend Sam, Weagle (the guide to 'Mordor'), Gandalf, Strider, Legolas, Elves, soldiers, trees etc. Even the orcs (enemy) took him closer to his destination. In similar way, we will have such characters in our lives too, the least we could do is recognize and respect the efforts put in by others, rest is all perks.

The next most important aspect I learnt is that there few not so good things we possess about us and its not good either for us or people around us.. nobody is perfect! But letting that thing go which you have been attached to for a while and though its impacting you negatively and you also know it has a negative impact upon others around you. Yes, this is the 'ring' that I am talking about, it is so attractive, might give you some personal benefits and power. The journey of destroying that 'ring' is the responsibility you have; you will have some people who would want you to retain it, you just need to know who they are- it’s very important. The other important thing is you need to know how you differentiate the ones who are for you and ones against you (in good spirit). You end up making some mistakes about people, but when you realize that you have done so.. The least that you can do is apologize and make up for it. Saying 'sorry' isn’t that difficult but forgive and forget is even more difficult. Irrespective of what the result is, if you apologize, you can just be patient for the other person to forgive and forget. People might forget what happened, how it happened, but they won’t ever forget how it made them feel; you cannot do much about that fact, but saying 'sorry' at the right time and being there for them will just help you and other moving on. This is an unsaid expectation and it’s up to us to realize it.

Some wise man once said to me, it’s not what you do is important, but what impact it has caused in someone else's life which makes a difference.