Etiquettes

Its not so interesting topic to write about, but just giving it a try- as I have learnt etiquettes by experience and not in the books. There are so many etiquettes- email, business, eating etc etc. You come across people who do not have good etiquettes, who don't have any etiquettes (who do not know what does that mean) and some people are just so full of etiquettes. 
And some are absolutely funny people whom we all happen to meet- who don't have any etiquettes but talk about etiquettes about others :).
I learnt that it is important to have a crisp and clear communication while @ work. Important to have respect and manners to misbehave/ behave while you are with your friends and partners. 
I find my this post to be a little boring one as it is not of my taste either, but I met a person today who doesn't have any etiquettes and was commenting about everyone else's!

Change

There are too many things to write about this topic. Change is sometimes good, but change management is difficult. So to adopt a change it is obvious to have a right kind of strategy for the change management. 

There are many books around change management one could read about.. but what I personally believe is that you can Change things in your life, the day you believe in Changing something in your life.. When you truly believe that there is something that you need to Change about yourself, your company etc. you need to believe in that Change. Unless it is from within it will not show out. Once you believe in what you want to do, you come up with right kind of strategic plan for manage the Change that you want to drive in yourself or in your company.

Need & Wants

Should we go with a dictionary meaning or with the experiences of life? Not everyone is good at books.. one has to unlearn things to learn something new!

The 'needs' come along as you grow up- 'I need food' - 'I want a laptop'- 'I need to sleep' - 'I want to buy a new CD'. We all mix up between needs and wants mistakenly.

When you desire for something- ask first to yourself if it is your 'need' or your 'want' and put it in your priority list accordingly. You will not crave for it unnecessarily.

Just define your needs and wants at an early stage, before you get confused with what you need and what you want- do not mix it up.

Meet your friends regularly- you always need them.

Be with your family, spend time with them- they always need you and vice versa.

Get a hug from all those whom you love- you always need one- good times, and more in bad times.

Be with people- do not isolate yourself in a room, reach out to people.. Everyone has someone who loves them, cares for them..

Motivation

What is motivation? Can we classify this word as one of the value that one has? I guess yes, cause the belief statement that differ from person to person.
Some people get motivated when they get attention.
Some people get motivated when they get recognition.
Some people get motivated when they get monetary benefits.
Some people get motivated when praised.
& Some with all of the above!


This all comes with the kind of work we do. This is all obvious. But now a days 'motivation' is becoming a driving factor for everyone, and I am not saying that there is anything wrong about it. My opinion is that- one has to focus on 'quality work' for the assignment that he is responsible/ accountable for, rest of the things are always taken care of. One need not depend on someone to motivate oneself but make others depended upon you! Thats where you build strong relationship with people. This also gives one power at times, and as said- With great power comes great responsibility (courtesy- Spiderman). Once you have developed the standard, you will need to ensure to maintain the standard.


You need to motivate yourself, by patting your own back for all the good work you did. Thank the team members who supported you to complete the assignment. And, raise your bar and keep high standards!

A Candle Of Light

Hope is a candle of light. Until to fill the free form for a lottery in some mall you can't hope for a free gift! So, fill it and you can at-least hope that you will get it.

Lot of people conclude that 'To hope, doesn't matter, but you need to be lucky enough to get what you hope for'. Its crap. It no luck factor. Even if we talked about the above example- its someone who filled the form, hoped and believed that he will win the lottery and he got it!

Hope and believe these two non-tangible things go hand in hand. So, you need to believe in things that you hope for and then what ever you will ask for is what you will get. So whenever you are in tight situation you need to say- 'I will win' and believe in your own words instead of saying and believing 'Will I win?' Remove this question-mark from your life and make it simple :)

A Lonely Crossroad

Loneliness adds beauty to life. It puts a special burn on sunsets and makes night air smell better. It is the time when you get more close to yourself and know yourself. The worst thing that could happen to someone is- When one is alone and he doesn't even know oneself. It is the red flag for you, as you become dependent on others for your needs, happiness and when you are sad. You need someone desperately around to listen to you.

There is nothing bad of being with people and having people around- but something thats wrong is 'dependability'. We conveniently tend to forget that we have come alone in this world and we'll be going back alone too!!! Its a fact everyone knows about it but people don't accept it.

Take a break for yourself, cook for yourself, be alone in the room for sometime, take out some time to think what you like and what you don't like. If you are in trouble, take a deep breath and think about the root cause for your trouble and you will find an answer for your trouble.

People are there around you as 'companion' or 'friends' or 'family' being with them gives you a sense of 'togetherness' just don't mix this emotion with 'dependability'.

The Quest

How important it is to accomplish something that you are searching for? One has sleepless nights unless he gets what he wants.
You wait for those signals and those hints which will take you to what you want. In this journey, you tend you learn something about yourself- a quality, you tend to test your patience too!!!
It is a humane tendency that they tend to compromise until they get the right thing, but we do compromise sometimes- but the only question that we need to ask ourselves is- Is it worth a compromise or Can I get exactly what I want?
People these days- most of them have become used to compromises- whether it is a right thing or not- they just don't tend to think about it much.
'Convenience' has taken over to the right thing. Very few of them question themselves before they indulge into something.
There are few who ask a lot of questions to themselves and analyze a lot before compromising on the quality- thats the real process of experiencing the process for searching something that you want- The Quest!

So rightly said- Life begins as a quest of the child for the man and ends as a journey by the man to rediscover the child.

Pursuit Of Happyness

If you think I am talking here bout this film, you might just be wrong! I am talking about pursuit of happyness- Happyness with a 'y' in it!!! Please excuse me to grab this title from my favorite film.

Has anyone for the fact have analyzed if they have 'patience' in themselves? And how important it is? In this fast-track world that we live in, one still has to wait to get what he really wants. He has to go through that process of waiting, a process where one learns his needs, his desires, his vision and sometimes in this process of waiting one learns things about oneself.

And you know what, sometimes you will just realize after waiting for sometime that what you really wanted is not actually what you want.

Sometimes when you get it what you wanted was you preserve it and care for it more than you care for yourself.

Sometimes when you get it what you once upon a time you felt you wanted but you actually dint wanted, and then you have to live with it!

No matter how much ever fast track world that you live in, you have to be patient to get things that you really want. If you look at the things that I have mentioned in this post you will find 2 most important things that one has to be clear in his life for: "Want- what you really want" and "Patience".

The day you understand these two things bout yourself and being specific & realistic about what you want- you will know what pursuit of happyness is- The intense feeling of happiness when you get what you really want. This feeling lies for a sometime, a moment may be- just get the feel of it and you forget all the worries of the world you have. And, sometimes it might also help you to look at things more positively.

Someone has rightly said- When you really want something, the entire world conspires to get you what you want.

Love Oneself

Love is selflessness and not selfishness.
Love is an intense feeling that it can either make your life heaven or turn it into hell.
Love is just a part of life and not heart of life.
Love thy neighbor than thyself.

Love is an intense emotion of something that you like the most in the world.
Love is unconditional, unstoppable.
Love is blind.
Love is sex.

So many definitions we have heard about it, and this definitions we have heard about it and these definitions contradict with each other!!! So, we can say that the definition of love varies from person to person and his reality of life make him chose the right definition of love for himself.
But have you ever thought about one thing? 'Hate' has only one definition and thats 'intense animosity' 'dislike something very strongly'. So is it easy to hate someone? How funny- it is difficult to love or even hate something- thats the irony of life.

Ask the below questions to yourself:
Is it easy to love others? Yes.
Is it easy to hate others? May be, No.
But my question is- Is it easy to love something, someone whom you hate? ah.. Diplomatically- dunno, depends. But honestly it isn't easy to love something that you hate it. If you think it is can you watch the film that you hate it for 100 times?

What I learnt today is Love yourself, love yourself selflessly! and love others? your choice!!!