Right and Wrong

Sometimes I keep wondering which rules in universe have decided about the Right Things and Wrong Things!
I am not talking about the traffic rules here we need to follow them- there is a governance and logic behind creating these set rules.
Have you ever thought that what you have learnt in life and what others have there is some things common and some different. Sometimes the differences is what gets you close to others and sometimes similarities. The difference is just upbringing. We all have a habit to categorize everything in life- your house have a bedroom, kitchen, bathroom, living room and every room has its rules- You can pee in your bedroom/ living room ;). 
Every thing that happens in our life or someone else's life- we categorize it into right/ wrong. With these biases you gain and at times loose some opportunities as they were not in your value system. My question to all those who are reading my blog here today is: Do we have to categorize to right and wrong? Cant we think something beyond right and wrong. May be things you do in a particular situation according to you might be wrong but during that moment its a right thing to do... then why dont we allow ourselves to do things you want to?

From Frooti to Breezer

Change!
Change in lifestyle
Change in likes/ dislikes
Change in reaction/ action etc.
As you grow, your approach towards life changes.. your likes and dislikes too and your expectation from life too. At times, you were better off as you were yesterday. With new environment, some known/ unknown people around you, you tend to adapt things which at some point were not even acceptable to you. You start living a different life too but my question is why do you feel at times 'good were the old days'. This single thought probes further questioning which we don't ask ourselves like:
Are you happy about the decisions you made?
Is this what you really want?
If your answer to the above is either 'Not Sure' or 'No' then you need to really sit back and think about it, before these materialistic things which you don't want to be part of intensify in your life and you are left with minimal choices when you want to Change.
One needs to gain control over their emotions- on how they feel or how they react to a situation. It doesn't mean that you need to control your feelings or expressions, just that think before you act/ react. 
Life surprises you now and then, you are not always ready.. few things are controllable and few things are not.. but with what you do, how do you take it.. you are solely responsible for that Change and transformation. 
Learn to Accept.
Learn to forget and forgive.
Learn to look for alternatives.
Someone has rightly said: If you cant control it, enjoy it!

Planning and Forecasting

This is technically work of finance guys! But what I am writing about today is about Planning your life and  career give a direction.
Frankly, this has not worked for me, I never planned to be an HR professional.. but I am one today... circumstances were different.. opportunities came, I grabbed it and I am happy. On one blue day at office, I was been advised that I need to have a GOAL in life. I have a career goal and I have a life goal but I dont have a plan to achieve those goals, but I have a strong determination and confidence to achieve them. 


Do what works best for you is what I have learnt.

Music In My Soul

We all know that our favorite form of music changes our bad mood to good mood and vice versa.

I had never been to a disc ever in my life until yesterday, the loud music where you can't hear what others are talking, you are just forced to hear whatever they are playing and then after sometime your feet starts tapping on the dance floor and you find yourself in different world altogether. 

Thats the power of music, and no wonder why all these guys associated in the music world are called 'Gurus'.

Endless Goodbye

Few people who are part of your life make a big difference in your life.. Even though you meet them frequently you always have something or other to talk about with them.. there is never a good bye :). 

It is rightly said, the number of friends doesn't really matter but the friends who will stand by you all your life is what matters. The comfort that you share with your friends is something you wont share even when you are with your life partner (there are a few exceptional cases, where your partner is your friend too). 

Not only friends but there are a few undefined relationships which you don't ever wanna let go. I am amazed about the relationship between lord Krishna and Radha.. an eternal love... just wow!

I am blessed with few such people in my life whom I adore/ love than myself and I thank God to send them to me.

            

Think... Think... Think...

Sometimes, some thoughts just arrogate your mind and you keep thinking about it day in and day out. You try to find answers to the questions that you have, you think about the instances in your life which have already passed and you think it could have been better, you think about the current issues that are going on and also think about how you can resolve those issues. OMG!!!! We think so much... 


So, give a break! Enjoy the time that you spend with your friends, with your family, enjoy the movie that you watch, enjoy the music that you like.. life is too short- as you never know if you will be able to live the next moment or not. 


So Wake Up and say yourself- I am gorgeous and I deserve an awesome day!


                 

Force or Choice

We all know how we hate it when something is being forced on us, by someone else or ourselves, and trust me thats worse! But why do we hate it so very much? Do we look at choice as the opposite of force! As in I am being forced to do something because I don't have a choice there. But what can we really do about this! Being a science student I would really like to convert it, put some chemicals on it, heat it to an optimum temperature, basically process it to transform it! But can I chemically treat force to become choice!
YES!
Not in the lab but in my mind, yeah, using a tool called "Attitude"
Why cant I choose the situation that I'm being forced to be in!
For instance, this morning I was already running late for work and to top it I was waiting for my colleague (as we car pool) who calls me at 9:15 am and says that he is going to work out of the other office! When I discovered this, I was clearly being forced by the situation. I was being forced to get late. And what did I do? I chose it! Yes, I chose to be late!
Similarly, apply this to facts that you cannot change in the significant areas of your lives. As soon as you choose, you will stop wasting your valuable emotional and mental energy in resisting it! Through this attitude you will create space for newer possibilities! Do this in your head for sometime, if you have digested this you will discover something very new in you today:
examples
I choose my fat wife
I choose my smoker husband
I choose my diabetes
I choose my special child
I choose my paralyzed parent
I choose my Disease

Happy choosing! I hope this reaction will be irreversible!
Have an extra-ordinary day!
                          

Give & Take

People matter to us so much, especially the ones who are close to us. When they are Sad   you are so worried for them and want to ensure that they are happy- you try your best to do whatever that makes them feel good and in turn you feel good.

The quality of giving someone something that makes the other happy is the best thing one can have!! People are better than no people.