Human Logic

I realized that we are behave the way we are programmed. We are been trained and taught things in life right the day we were born. How to behave, eat, sleep, study etc. Our minds were programmed and we built in logic, have an emotional intelligence cause of which we got an ability to define things we come across in life. Then why do we get confused at times? Even though you know all the logic, you think illogically- what happens to the emotional intelligence sometimes? We adjust to things in life that we never liked but they have happened to us therefore we adjusted, thereafter adjustment became a habit as we are scared of what our family will think, friends will think, relatives will think, the world will think. Adjusting to a situation when you are helpless and can’t do anything once in a while is fine but don’t build that as a habit. I read somewhere- if you forgive once, it’s easier for others to hurt you. 

Since you have allowed others to do that to you, sometimes you don’t have answers to your questions which leads to you being a problem yourself to solution of your life problems- this is what I called being ‘confused’ and confusion leads to not knowing your own self, not realising what you want out of life- in our daily chaos it’s not in our priority list- we have so many things to look after EMI’s, work, family, socialising. And then suddenly we realise one day that our busy lives we have forgotten all about our own self- that’s when we seek ‘art of living’ classes, meditation etc to learn what we want out of our life.

So, the point is why do we need to wait for so long just to realise this fact? Why not try knowing yourself now? Loving yourself now? Don’t forget one logic- love yourself selflessly and not selfishly.

The belief that unhappiness is selfless and happiness is selfish is misguided. It's more selfless to act happy. It takes energy, generosity, and discipline to be unfailingly light-hearted, yet everyone takes the happy person for granted. No one is careful of his/her feelings or tries to keep his/her spirits high. One seems self-sufficient; becomes a cushion for others. And because happiness seems unforced, that person usually gets no credit.

Your Person For Lifetime...

People come into your life for a reason, season or lifetime. I was reading one of the book which said:
1. If people come in your life for a reason, the reason is over- people go
2. If people come for a season, the season is over- people go
3. If people come for lifetime, they don't have any reason neither they are for any season but they are there just because they want to be part of your life.
Someone wise once said 'People realize that they have lost a diamond while they were busy collecting stones'. The factor of realization is something more important and a skill which is to be preserved- as after you are born you are responsible for people who are part of your life, parents and siblings is what you are destined to.
No matter for what time people are part of your time- you tend to get a good/ bad experience which you might cherish or get a lesson in life. 
When you find your person, he/ she will be in form of your friend/ partner- don't let them go easily.. not everyone's lucky to find their person- Remember they are there for you for lifetime.

Inevitable

I experienced a major difference between a man and a woman today. Man applies logic everywhere- whether he wants to buy a car, a house, sunglasses, clothes, cell phone even in relationships. Whereas women go by their likes/ dislikes and most of the women I know are so strong with their views (including me)- they will apply logic when they think they should, completely illogical when it comes to relationships. 

This is one of the things that make both sex so different from each other. Such characteristics of women lead them and men around them into inevitable situations many times. What can one do? Deal with the situation and move on... what more one can do? The skill is to know the way to deal with the situations, one who is smart enough can manage the situation in a win win situation to both, situations where only either of them is on a winning side- you know what happens.